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#Social Challenge Day 4: Reflections to my 16 year-old self

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As an adult reflecting on my life as a teen, there are some things I would mention to my sixteen year-old self in passing if I could. As a sixteen year-old, you think you are IT…..you are not! Here are ten things you need to remember.

First, there are some things in life that are better to wait for.

Second, you don’t have to reveal 3/4 of your body to attract Mr. Right, he will come along and want you for more than just your body.

Third, don’t think you are pulling one over on your parents, they were teens once too… they know what you are up to.

Fourth, you still have many years ahead of you to do all those things you want to do, you don’t have to rush anything.

Fifth, you have not experience all that there is to life at 16, so get a grip and quit pouting when you don’t get your way.

Sixth, some people are only in your life to teach you a lesson, learn from them.

Seventh, you will know the death of young friends, count your blessings daily and praise God for each day you have on Earth.

Eighth, think before you speak.

Ninth, be kind to all the people you meet, you don’t know their struggles.

Tenth, tell those you love just how much you love them everyday, someday they may be gone.

#SocialChallenge Day 3: My Relationship with my parents

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My Relationship with My Parents

I love my parents! My step mom has been my mom since I was about 4 and thanks to her she made sure I grew up knowing what little girls needed.  My father is a loving and protective father of course but he has always been a father who provided and we never went without.  My mom loves to shop so I of course had the best in clothes and shoes and there was never a dull moment around our house.

The one thing that I wish that my parents had done more of when I was a child was attend more school functions I was in and encouraged me to do more extra activities like sports, choir, or things like that.  My parents both work even today and at the same companies they’ve always worked at.  They love the country and look forward to every weekend going up to the ranch to get away from the city.

My parents love their granddaughters and would do anything in the world for them.  Which makes me love them even more!  I have often thought about not having my parents on this earth and every time it takes my breath away. I don’t know how I could live a day without them.  I would say that my relationship with my parents is stronger now than when I was a kid, and I look forward to my weekly multiple chats with them and going to see them at the ranch.

I have my dad’s laugh that’s for sure. My dad and I laugh deep in our souls.  I mean when we think something is funny you going to know it was funny! We both love the smell of a fire in the woods and we enjoy pulling out the last pack of boudin (which really means there are a lot left but he always says “yeah, I think I got one pack left ha-ha) and eat it out by the fire.

My mom is the best cook I know besides me. She can cook and bake all kids of things.  Every year for Christmas she bakes all kinds of candies, fudges, and yummy goodness. She also makes some really good country breakfast and dinners.  I mean those kind that leave you full as a tick and begging for more. My favorite meal that my mom makes is meat loaf, homemade scallop potatoes, fresh green beans, and corn on the cob. I mean my mouth is watering just telling you about it. I enjoy learning her cooking tips and having our kitchen chit chats.

I sure pray that my girls look forward to coming and cooking with me or spending time out by the fire in the winter time telling stories like I do with my dad.

#Social Challenge 3: My relationship with my parents

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I grew up in a loving home with both parents! And three siblings, a dog, a ranch, attending church occasionally and attending public school and lots of great family holiday get togethers..so fortunately, very lucky!

My parents were married 50 years when we lost my mother and then my father passed a couple of years later.  Both parents were very hard workers and taught me many great lessons in life, one is that you have to be totally responsible for your actions and be totally responsible for yourself financially as well.  Hard work pays off!

I am a total product of a mixture of them both. I followed my mothers footprints and became a physical educator and teacher.  I spent many hours with my dad, riding horses, working the ranch and learning all about the school of hard knocks..I miss them both very much and will always be thankful for the things they provided for me and the things they taught me about life.

#SocialChallenge: Day 3- My Relationship With My Parents

tarabuck_3daythree3_socialchallengeRichard Pryor, Bernie Mack, Eddie Murphy you name them, it matters not! Why? Because my mother is by far the funniest person I have ever met hands down. She missed her calling to become a comedian for sure.  Growing up she was balanced and stable, teaching us to be independent and self sufficient. She took great care of us and showed us by the way she managed our household how resilience stamps out complaining. I can not recall my mother ever complaining, she just took care of us in amazing ways. Today she is one of my best friends that I still rely on for guidance and direction. I love her beyond the spoken word. She is my SHERO!

 

Have you ever seen a sheep dressed in a lions clothes? Well I have. My father, has a fierce bark, but a heart of pure flesh and gold. He come across as the fussy, rough and tough guy, but is the guy that would give you his last. Growing up he did not always make the best decisions, and it cost or family alot of the years, and still today. But at the end of the day, his voice of reason still echos in my ear on a daily basis. Some of the greatest lessons in life I learned from my dad. He encouraged me to always be my best, to not worry what anyone says or thinks. He encouraged me to build and purchase my first home at the age of 23. He told me that leaving a bad relationship is not always taboo, follow my heart. Although my dad is no longer able to take care of himself, his intellect and snap has not changed. He still helps me with small issues around my house or with my car with sound advice. I love him beyond words. He is the reason I can hold my head up and keep pushing despite all the odds.

Thanks for reading my post, please share or comment!  Smooches!

 

Jennise

#SocialChallenge Day 3: My Parents and I…

My Parents and I…

I love my parents. I really do. But I haven’t always been the best communicator. Our relationship is cordial enough. I call on holidays and birthdays. I make sure to see them when I come to town…

I know, I know. I preach to my clients all the time about building and maintaining relationships with loved ones. And I constantly harp on my teenage clients about how they won’t have their parents around forever. I have a horrible case of “Do as I say, not as I do.” Want to know a secret? Most people in my profession do as well. But I digress.

I think the reason I’m not as close as to my parents as I would like to be is because that’s the relationship that was modeled and I have reciprocated in kind. I wasn’t a bad kid growing up. They weren’t bad parents. They had a goal of getting us out of high school. Mission accomplished. But there weren’t many happy memories either. They weren’t the lovey dovey type of parents, but they made efforts to come to our events. I will always love and respect my parents. They did the best they could with what they had. I recognize that now that I have kids of my own.

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But I strive for something different with my own children. I make sure to give the unexpected hug and kiss. I do my best to let my children know they are loved even when they are mad at me for daring to enforce the rules. I’m not going to lie. It’s a struggle sometimes when all I want to do is stay in my room all day. Then I remember what I used to long for as a kid. So when the kids come in and want a story, darn it they get a story. What about you? What’s your relationship like with your parents? If you have kids, how do you want the relationship to be different than what you have growing up?

#SocialChallenge Day 3: Relationship with my parents

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My Relationship With My Parents

My relationship with my parents is pretty normal. No drama!

My parents are both kind, loving, good people and they will be celebrating 50 years of marriage in September. The have been great role models for the way marriages and family life should be like. They support and take care of one another. Their love for each other shines through in both their personalities.

From my dad I learned, hard work, good ethics, honesty, trust. He is loyal and true to his word. He works hard every day, sometimes too hard!

From my mom I learned, caring, love, selflessness. She has such a giving spirit and would do anything for her family!

#SocialChallenge Day 3: My Relationship With My Parents

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Tamara Hancock
www.snarkyheifer.com

In order to effectively cover this topic, I will have to split my parents up.  As my parental unit, our relationship is pretty simple and boring. When it’s the three of us, we talk about mundane crap like the weather, or food, or whatever show happens to be on TV at the time.  Most times, we talk about the pets.

Me:  (pointing at a huge red, bald spot on their dog’s back) Hey, what’s wrong with Skippy?

Dad: What are you talking about? There’s nothing wrong with that dog.

Mom: Oh, he’s got a rash….he keeps aggravating it.  I keep telling your dad to buy him some ointment.  But, he hasn’t yet.

Me: You want me to go buy some?

Dad: NO!  He’s fine.  Worry about your own dog.

Mom: (rolling her eyes) Babe! He has a rash! He needs ointment.

At which point my Dad walks away and my mom whispers to me how wonderful it would be if I’d buy some ointment.  She’ll even pay me back.

That’s about it.

It’s not very exciting, is what I’m trying to say. We have nothing else to talk about.  My blog entry would stop here if I didn’t separate the two.  And, I know y’all are at the edges of your seats wondering what kind of crazy ass parents someone like me must have, right?  So, I’ll keep going.   You’re welcome.

My Momma

When I was a kid, my Momma was my world.  I remember wanting to wear her clothes and jewelry.  It was through her that I learned to love to read.  In my teenage years, we bumped heads quite a bit as I tried to discover who the heck I was.  As it turned out, she was right about a lot of things that I stubbornly wanted to learn the hard way.  Now that I’m an adult, my Momma is my friend, my confidant AND my mother.  I appreciate her words of wisdom and I admire her thirst for life.  If it weren’t for her obsession with saving the world from itself by shoving petitions in my face all the time, I’d say she was perfect.  (For more on my how I feel about my Momma’s petitions, click here: One-Eyed African Tigers Can Kiss My Ass.)

My Dad

Dad is a man of few words.  He wears a permanent scowl on his face.  He works ALL THE TIME.  Growing up, we didn’t see him much and when we did, he was mad a lot.  Work will do that to you.  That’s one of the reasons I’ve given up on stressful jobs.  If I ain’t saving lives, it ain’t worth my sanity!  But, he was raised in a different time and under different circumstances.  I didn’t really know my Dad growing up.  He was there, but he wasn’t really THERE.  Kinda like now, except he’s not as mad all the time any more.  I will say that I feel a bit closer to him (which still isn’t all that close) now that he’s an old fart than I did when he was a younger, more vivacious buck. I’ve had to spend quite a bit of time with him over the last few years – at doctor’s appointments, surgeries, etc.  There was this one time I even had to protect him once from my Momma’s physical abuse after he had back surgery.  She thumped his face and patted him hard on the back – love pats, she called them. She obviously “loves” him differently than she loves her children. (Click here to read about that incident: Turns Out My Parents Are Into Some Kinky, Sadistic Sh*t!.)

So, as it turns out, my parents are only a fraction of the crazy that I turned out to be.  Not sure where I get it from.  Maybe all the lead paint I chewed on as a child?

#SocialChallenge Day 3: The Miracle

The people I trust the most are my parents.

I have one of the most heartfelt relationships with them.  They are the two people in my life that I know will always be there for me.  Parents are the angels God gives us on this earth to help us go through life.  My mother was told before I was born that she wouldn’t be able to have children because of the removal of one of her ovaries and the other ovary was very weak.  So my parents had planned to adopt children.  I was their miracle after 7 years of trying to have a baby.  My mother has always told me the gifts I have are from God because I was sent by Him into her life.  Little does she know she was the miracle I needed in my life and that is why God chose her to be my mother.  I pray that one day I will be the woman that she is.

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I find my strength because I have witnessed what she has done in her life and the strength my father has as the man that provides for his family.  I have nothing but awe and amazement for my parents.  I have seen them struggle financially when the oilfield was down and my father was laid off back in the 80’s.  I have seen their faith rise up above the struggles of life, when they not only had to care for their 4 children but also for their 3 invalid parents.   I saw them come together and solve problems together.  They have never given up on each other or on me.  As the oldest of 4 children, I learned what it was to be a team and to take care of one another.  My parents are the most loving and giving people I know on this earth.  I learned compassion and charity from them.  I learned that we are blessed to give back to those that do not have much.  My love for them is everlasting.  Respect, Love, and Joy is what fills my heart when I think of them.

Enjoy the time you have with them because one day God will take his angels back home.

#SocialChallenge Day 3: Describe your relationship with your parents

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 Relationship with Parents

As a parent, I understand now how the evolution of parenting begins to take place. One day you have a child, you raise them up to the best of your abilities, regardless of your fears and doubts. You help your child make a place for themselves in the world and then you are done right? Hardly. I still turn to my parents all the time for advice on life, raising my kids, marriage, money, really anything. My parents are now my sounding boards. They give me advice freely and sometimes even when unsolicited, because they care about me, I am sure. They are two solid constants in my life. I don’t talk to them daily or sometimes even weekly but I know they will be there whenever I do call or head out to their house to visit.

They have been great role models as parents. They raised me to be an active child – I played softball for as long as I can remember and no matter where I played they were either coaching, in the stands cheering or in the press box announcing the game. They carted me to any school activity that I participated in and they went over and beyond to ensure I felt LOVED and I love them for that! My parents don’t have PhDs or Masters degrees, heck my dad never stepped one foot into college, but they are educated and honorable people. They raised me up to be respectful of others and in turn have helped me to understand how I want to raise my children.

I watched my dad work long hours for the telephone company and still have enough time to coach a softball team I was on. He worked late hours some nights or worked through storms like Hurricane Alicia in 1983. He never crossed a picket line though because he was a member of the Union and felt strongly about supporting the efforts to get paid the wages that workers deserved. He is a man of principle, good character and integrity!

My mother has always been there for me through life’s ups and downs. She pushed me to live my dreams and still encourages me today to find that thing I am seeking and do it! She has been the one to hold my hand or hold me as I cried about painful relationships or as I rejoice over new happenings in my life. She worked off and on as I went through school, but one thing I can look back and remember is that no matter what, we were there sitting at the kitchen table to do homework and she was sitting there with us to make sure we did it. She cooked and cleaned our house and made sure to teach us the how to’s of dishes, laundry, and cooking a square meal for dinner. We clipped coupons together and did the grocery shopping as a family. My mom held our family together like glue and she still does!

I would say that my relationship with my parents is excellent! I love them both dearly and I am honored to call them mom and dad.

Honor

What is HONOR? How does it apply to your walk in life?

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If you are a business owner, you may think of honor as

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If you are in the military or formerly in the military, you may think of honor as

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If you are a parent you may instill this in your children, when you think of honor

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If you are a teacher, you may think of honor as

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If you are a person of faith, you may see honor as

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No matter your walk in life, it is probably best to feel this way…

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As we embark on Memorial Day Weekend please take time to remember and HONOR those that gave all for our freedoms in the United States. Blessed are we to have a Happy Memorial Day 2014!

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