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#SocialChallenge Day 29: What do you think people misunderstand most about you?

Apparently, I’m not mean or fun…

Tamara Hancock
www.snarkyheifer.com

I think that since I’m pretty outspoken in my writing, people mistake me for being mean.  But, Hubber disagrees.

Hubber: People who read your blog, think you live a fun, exciting life.  But really, you’re pretty damn boring.  They don’t think you’re mean.  They think you’re fun.

Me: When do I ever brag about having a bunch of fun and exciting shit going on in my life?  I believe I’m pretty clear about how UN-FUN my shit is!

Hubber: It might be the snark.  You’re snarky in your writing, but in real life, you’re pretty tame.

Me: That’s complete bullshit.  I’m snarky ALL the time.  I just don’t talk to a lot of people on a regular basis… so they have to read about it.  But, that doesn’t make ME un-fun…it just makes the regular, everyday shit I do un-fun.

Hubber: Sure it does.

Me:  Maybe I’m UN-FUN because I’m married to someone who is UN-FUN!  Maybe I shoulda married Terry Crews when I had the chance.  I bet I’d be fun if I were his wife!

Hubber: Oh, because THAT could have actually happened.  He sucked as President Camacho in Idiocracy, by the way.

Me: Everyone sucked in Idiocracy.  Even YOU!

Hubber: You’re dumb.  And, I’m done with this conversation.

So, I’m back to square one, here.  I guess Hubber and I both have a point.  Either people think I’m mean, or they think I’m fun… and they’d be mistaken on both counts.  I’m actually a pretty nice, boring gal.

#SocialChallenge Day 29: What do you think people misunderstand most about you?

What do you think people misunderstand most about you?

I am not sure if there is one particular thing that people misunderstand about me the most, but sometimes, I might be thought of as too direct. I mean when people ask you a question, don’t they want an answer? If they did not want an answer, why are they asking? So when you tell them the answer and then they get all bent out of shape because they don’t like what they hear, what are  you to do? Do you ever have that problem? That is what I am talking about.

In this light of being direct, I feel like sometimes I am a person that sees things as either black or white, but not a shade of grey in between. That might be misunderstood as well. People may see me as not willing to give an inch. I think that is probably a misunderstanding. I will listen and hear them out, but in being direct, if I don’t think something I hear is quite right, I don’t give an inch, but rather stand my ground and keep with my values and integrity.

Not sure if this would be considered a good or bad thing, but it is just me. When I was a teacher, I found that sometimes people were too wishy-washy in the classroom. I liked structure, organization, and routine. I think this helped my students learn best. They may have not felt the same at the time, but as I continue to stay in touch with some of them, I have had many of them thank me for the way I kept the order in my classroom and helped them to learn.

So if being too direct and not seeing things in shades of grey are misunderstood about me and my personality, don’t worry, I am a pretty reasonable person and will listen nicely!

#SocialChallenge Day 29: The Quiet Ones

The Quiet Ones

I am one of the quiet ones. Or so people think. Most people mistake my not speaking up at every opportunity as not having an opinion. I have opinions. I just don’t feel the need to share them all of the time.

Most people would mistake my quietness for weakness. Don’t get it twisted. I am as strong-willed as they come. I just choose to reserve my strength for when it is necessary use it. That is usually when someone is trying to pull the wool over my eyes. I just sit back and when the time is right, I lower the boom. And my no means no.

tarabuck_quiet_is_weakMost people assume since I’m quiet, I don’t have fun. I have plenty of fun. My type of fun doesn’t have to include alcohol or hanging at the club. Side Note: If the only way you can have fun is with a drink in your hand, you may have a problem. I like hanging out with family and friends. We can have a blast anywhere.

Most people assume that because I’m quiet, I’m not making any moves. Believe me, I’m making moves just fine. I don’t have to announce everything I do. When I want you to know something or need help, I know how to communicate.

Don’t underestimate the quiet ones. They just might surprise you.

 

#SocialChallenge Day 29: What do people misunderstand most about you?

What do people misunderstand most about you?

tarabuck_big_spiritsPeople most of the time judge me right from the start because I have a “big presence”. I am a very confident person, I have many talents, and I’m a born leader.  So most of the time my confidence is misunderstood because sometimes I don’t feel very confident at all.  But people will judge me based on what they lack and honestly they are missing out because I’m a really good friend to have. 🙂

#SocialChallenge Day 29: Misunderstood

Misunderstood

I feel most people misunderstand my need to get real and down to the nitty gritty of things.  I like to get deep into conversations and relate better to people when they are open and willing to share their heart.  Unfortunately not many people readily share their hearts or are transparent.  Especially in the business world.. when I open up my heart and become transparent, I tend to scare people away!

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#SocialChallenge Day 26: What notion does the world have wrong?

What notion does the world have wrong?

Money can’t buy love…

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As much as we would like to say that,  “I have seen people who get together because of the money that one of them makes” and finally they fall in love…  I don’t know but to me money bought that love! 🙂