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#SocialChallenge Day 30: Remember me

10 things to be remembered by:

  1. My Faith & My love to share the gospel
  2. My heart & love for people
  3. My love for my kids and my husband
  4. My passion to inspire, encourage, & equip people.
  5. My love for animals
  6. My heart for worship
  7. My writings
  8. My cooking
  9. My Friendship
  10. My Smile

#SocialChallenge Day 29: What do you think people misunderstand most about you?

Apparently, I’m not mean or fun…

Tamara Hancock
www.snarkyheifer.com

I think that since I’m pretty outspoken in my writing, people mistake me for being mean.  But, Hubber disagrees.

Hubber: People who read your blog, think you live a fun, exciting life.  But really, you’re pretty damn boring.  They don’t think you’re mean.  They think you’re fun.

Me: When do I ever brag about having a bunch of fun and exciting shit going on in my life?  I believe I’m pretty clear about how UN-FUN my shit is!

Hubber: It might be the snark.  You’re snarky in your writing, but in real life, you’re pretty tame.

Me: That’s complete bullshit.  I’m snarky ALL the time.  I just don’t talk to a lot of people on a regular basis… so they have to read about it.  But, that doesn’t make ME un-fun…it just makes the regular, everyday shit I do un-fun.

Hubber: Sure it does.

Me:  Maybe I’m UN-FUN because I’m married to someone who is UN-FUN!  Maybe I shoulda married Terry Crews when I had the chance.  I bet I’d be fun if I were his wife!

Hubber: Oh, because THAT could have actually happened.  He sucked as President Camacho in Idiocracy, by the way.

Me: Everyone sucked in Idiocracy.  Even YOU!

Hubber: You’re dumb.  And, I’m done with this conversation.

So, I’m back to square one, here.  I guess Hubber and I both have a point.  Either people think I’m mean, or they think I’m fun… and they’d be mistaken on both counts.  I’m actually a pretty nice, boring gal.

#SocialChallenge Day 29: What do you think people misunderstand most about you?

What do you think people misunderstand most about you?

I am not sure if there is one particular thing that people misunderstand about me the most, but sometimes, I might be thought of as too direct. I mean when people ask you a question, don’t they want an answer? If they did not want an answer, why are they asking? So when you tell them the answer and then they get all bent out of shape because they don’t like what they hear, what are  you to do? Do you ever have that problem? That is what I am talking about.

In this light of being direct, I feel like sometimes I am a person that sees things as either black or white, but not a shade of grey in between. That might be misunderstood as well. People may see me as not willing to give an inch. I think that is probably a misunderstanding. I will listen and hear them out, but in being direct, if I don’t think something I hear is quite right, I don’t give an inch, but rather stand my ground and keep with my values and integrity.

Not sure if this would be considered a good or bad thing, but it is just me. When I was a teacher, I found that sometimes people were too wishy-washy in the classroom. I liked structure, organization, and routine. I think this helped my students learn best. They may have not felt the same at the time, but as I continue to stay in touch with some of them, I have had many of them thank me for the way I kept the order in my classroom and helped them to learn.

So if being too direct and not seeing things in shades of grey are misunderstood about me and my personality, don’t worry, I am a pretty reasonable person and will listen nicely!

#SocialChallenge Day 29: The Quiet Ones

The Quiet Ones

I am one of the quiet ones. Or so people think. Most people mistake my not speaking up at every opportunity as not having an opinion. I have opinions. I just don’t feel the need to share them all of the time.

Most people would mistake my quietness for weakness. Don’t get it twisted. I am as strong-willed as they come. I just choose to reserve my strength for when it is necessary use it. That is usually when someone is trying to pull the wool over my eyes. I just sit back and when the time is right, I lower the boom. And my no means no.

tarabuck_quiet_is_weakMost people assume since I’m quiet, I don’t have fun. I have plenty of fun. My type of fun doesn’t have to include alcohol or hanging at the club. Side Note: If the only way you can have fun is with a drink in your hand, you may have a problem. I like hanging out with family and friends. We can have a blast anywhere.

Most people assume that because I’m quiet, I’m not making any moves. Believe me, I’m making moves just fine. I don’t have to announce everything I do. When I want you to know something or need help, I know how to communicate.

Don’t underestimate the quiet ones. They just might surprise you.

 

#SocialChallenge Day 29: What do people misunderstand most about you?

What do people misunderstand most about you?

tarabuck_big_spiritsPeople most of the time judge me right from the start because I have a “big presence”. I am a very confident person, I have many talents, and I’m a born leader.  So most of the time my confidence is misunderstood because sometimes I don’t feel very confident at all.  But people will judge me based on what they lack and honestly they are missing out because I’m a really good friend to have. 🙂

#SocialChallenge Day 29: Misunderstood

Misunderstood

I feel most people misunderstand my need to get real and down to the nitty gritty of things.  I like to get deep into conversations and relate better to people when they are open and willing to share their heart.  Unfortunately not many people readily share their hearts or are transparent.  Especially in the business world.. when I open up my heart and become transparent, I tend to scare people away!

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#SocialChallenge Day 28: What is your love language?

Acts of Service

Tamara Hancock
www.snarkyheifer.com

What is my love language?  Wait.  What is my WHAT?  I don’t even know what this means.  Are you asking me to tell you what sweet nothings I want Hubber to whisper into my ear when we’re in the throes of coitus?  For instance: do I prefer dirty talk to moaning?  Or maybe you want me to tell you which spoken language I find the sexiest… Like, Italian… or Spanish… or French… or (god forbid) Mandarin?

To be safe, I just asked for clarification on this topic before this post turns into some X-Rated short story that earns me millions of dollars.  Hey.  Not a bad idea.  But, I’ll save THAT for MY OWN blog.

Anyway, as it turns out, I’m supposed to do ANOTHER QUIZ.  And, although we all know how well that worked out for me last time, I’m a team player… so I took the quiz.  The result of the quiz is supposed to indicate what you need to be happy/fulfilled in your intimate relationship.

I had to take the quiz three times, actually – because I kept hoping that the results would show that I needed GIFTS to be happy.  Turns out, my love language is “Acts of Service”.

The EXACT words used in my results were:

Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. Finding ways to serve speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts.

I guess I can’t argue with it.  I do love to be treated like the royalty I obviously was in my former life.  I like household/family responsibilities to be shared equally; but I wouldn’t complain if Hubber’s load was a little heavier than mine.  Although I LOVE getting gifts of flowers, or perfume, or jewelry, I do enjoy gifts of clean laundry, spotless floors, empty sinks, stain-free toilets, freshly cleaned and gassed-up cars a LOT more.

Hubber already knows this (he’s just a lazy mofo like I am).  But, I have a hard time ramming it into the heads of my children.

Oldest Spawn: Mom, what do you want for Mother’s Day this year?

Me: A spotless kitchen, clean carpets, and sterile bathrooms.

Oldest Spawn: Ugh.  C’mon, Mom.

Me: I could not be more serious.

Littlest Spawn: That’s too hard, Momma… what if I just draw you a picture of me cleaning a toilet?

Oldest Spawn:  That’s dumb.  But seriously, I’d rather just buy you something.

Littlest Spawn: YOU’RE DUMB!

Me: Ok… buy me a MAID SERVICE!  … And, ear plugs…and vodka.

I wonder if THIS guy works for a maid service in my area?

#SocialChallenge Day 28: What is your love language?

What is your love language?

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I had never really heard about the 5 love languages until recently. We went camping with a friend and she had invited some of her family out to join her and her son. We were all roasting s’mores around the campfire and the topic somehow came up because we were talking about our kids and how they act. She began to describe the 5 love languages to me, and I thought this just makes sense, pretty logical assessment of how people receive love from others.

I took the assessment test to determine my love language and it turns out I am:

Words of Affirmation: Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.

Want to find out your love language? Take the test here: The 5 Love Languages

#SocialChallenge Day 28: Love Language

Love Language

tarabuck_touchWell I have many things that make up my love language.

 

I love to cuddle.  Just laying on the couch snuggled up with my baby.  His arms around me and me just sunk into his side.

I love to kiss.  Slow, small, and soft kisses while wrapped in his arms.

Of course I love to hold hands.  I believe holding hands or at least touching each other keep you both constantly focused on each other!!!

 

Want to learn more about The 5 Love Languages?Click Here!

#SocialChallenge Day 28: My Love Language

Love Language

It sounds so romantic doesn’t it? Let me give you a little background on love languages. Your love language is the way you express love as defined by Gary Chapman. Usually the way you express love is the way you like to receive it. Some people express love through touch or words of affirmation. Others express love through gifts or acts of service. Personally, I express love through quality time.

tarabuck_quality_timeBelieve it or not, I’m not big on fancy gifts. I don’t really need words of affirmation, but I wouldn’t turn them down either. I really enjoy spending quality time with loved ones. Now, hubby is a gifts person. He is also big on words of affirmation. My oldest is like me, she loves spending time with you, but she’s not turning down gifts either. I think my youngest is a fan of physical touch.

The trick with love languages is to not only know your love language, but also the love languages of others in your family. Why? Because it allows you to have better communication when you speak the other person’s language. It lets them know you care. People just want to know that you get it. So if your partner’s love language is quality time, but all you do is bring home trinkets, your mate will likely feel unappreciated. So take the time to learn your love language as well as your mate and children.

If you don’t know your love language, here is the website.

You can take the quiz to determine your love language. You can even learn the love languages of your mate and children. Do you know your love language? Drop your comments below.