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#SocialChallenge Day 28: What is your love language?

Acts of Service

Tamara Hancock

What is my love language?  Wait.  What is my WHAT?  I don’t even know what this means.  Are you asking me to tell you what sweet nothings I want Hubber to whisper into my ear when we’re in the throes of coitus?  For instance: do I prefer dirty talk to moaning?  Or maybe you want me to tell you which spoken language I find the sexiest… Like, Italian… or Spanish… or French… or (god forbid) Mandarin?

To be safe, I just asked for clarification on this topic before this post turns into some X-Rated short story that earns me millions of dollars.  Hey.  Not a bad idea.  But, I’ll save THAT for MY OWN blog.

Anyway, as it turns out, I’m supposed to do ANOTHER QUIZ.  And, although we all know how well that worked out for me last time, I’m a team player… so I took the quiz.  The result of the quiz is supposed to indicate what you need to be happy/fulfilled in your intimate relationship.

I had to take the quiz three times, actually – because I kept hoping that the results would show that I needed GIFTS to be happy.  Turns out, my love language is “Acts of Service”.

The EXACT words used in my results were:

Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. Finding ways to serve speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts.

I guess I can’t argue with it.  I do love to be treated like the royalty I obviously was in my former life.  I like household/family responsibilities to be shared equally; but I wouldn’t complain if Hubber’s load was a little heavier than mine.  Although I LOVE getting gifts of flowers, or perfume, or jewelry, I do enjoy gifts of clean laundry, spotless floors, empty sinks, stain-free toilets, freshly cleaned and gassed-up cars a LOT more.

Hubber already knows this (he’s just a lazy mofo like I am).  But, I have a hard time ramming it into the heads of my children.

Oldest Spawn: Mom, what do you want for Mother’s Day this year?

Me: A spotless kitchen, clean carpets, and sterile bathrooms.

Oldest Spawn: Ugh.  C’mon, Mom.

Me: I could not be more serious.

Littlest Spawn: That’s too hard, Momma… what if I just draw you a picture of me cleaning a toilet?

Oldest Spawn:  That’s dumb.  But seriously, I’d rather just buy you something.

Littlest Spawn: YOU’RE DUMB!

Me: Ok… buy me a MAID SERVICE!  … And, ear plugs…and vodka.

I wonder if THIS guy works for a maid service in my area?

#SocialChallenge Day 28: What is your love language?

What is your love language?


I had never really heard about the 5 love languages until recently. We went camping with a friend and she had invited some of her family out to join her and her son. We were all roasting s’mores around the campfire and the topic somehow came up because we were talking about our kids and how they act. She began to describe the 5 love languages to me, and I thought this just makes sense, pretty logical assessment of how people receive love from others.

I took the assessment test to determine my love language and it turns out I am:

Words of Affirmation: Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.

Want to find out your love language? Take the test here: The 5 Love Languages

#SocialChallenge Day 28: Love Language

Love Language

tarabuck_touchWell I have many things that make up my love language.


I love to cuddle.  Just laying on the couch snuggled up with my baby.  His arms around me and me just sunk into his side.

I love to kiss.  Slow, small, and soft kisses while wrapped in his arms.

Of course I love to hold hands.  I believe holding hands or at least touching each other keep you both constantly focused on each other!!!


Want to learn more about The 5 Love Languages?Click Here!

#SocialChallenge Day 28: My Love Language

Love Language

It sounds so romantic doesn’t it? Let me give you a little background on love languages. Your love language is the way you express love as defined by Gary Chapman. Usually the way you express love is the way you like to receive it. Some people express love through touch or words of affirmation. Others express love through gifts or acts of service. Personally, I express love through quality time.

tarabuck_quality_timeBelieve it or not, I’m not big on fancy gifts. I don’t really need words of affirmation, but I wouldn’t turn them down either. I really enjoy spending quality time with loved ones. Now, hubby is a gifts person. He is also big on words of affirmation. My oldest is like me, she loves spending time with you, but she’s not turning down gifts either. I think my youngest is a fan of physical touch.

The trick with love languages is to not only know your love language, but also the love languages of others in your family. Why? Because it allows you to have better communication when you speak the other person’s language. It lets them know you care. People just want to know that you get it. So if your partner’s love language is quality time, but all you do is bring home trinkets, your mate will likely feel unappreciated. So take the time to learn your love language as well as your mate and children.

If you don’t know your love language, here is the website.

You can take the quiz to determine your love language. You can even learn the love languages of your mate and children. Do you know your love language? Drop your comments below.


#SocialChallenge Day 27: What is your favorite part of your body and why?

Smells Like Spleen Spirit

Tamara Hancock

My favorite part of my body would have to be my spleen.  In most people, that poor guy is so unappreciated.  Everyone is usually bragging on their shapely legs… or their bright eyes… or their luscious lips… or their voluminous hair.  And, unless you’ve got a ruptured one (or mono), the sweet spleen is often over looked.

But not mine!

I appreciate my spleen for all it does – filtering my blood and whatnot.  If not for my glorious spleen, I’d catch pneumonia regularly.  And, who knows? I might be dead by now without it.  So, THANK YOU, Spleen, my Queen of Clean.

I’m also fond of my left boob.  But, that seemed inappropriate for this blog.

#SocialChallenge Day 27: What is your favorite part of your body and why?

What is your favorite part of your body and why?

Now this may come as a shock to many people, but I have to say that my favorite body part would be my breasts. Now this is not in any way what you are thinking, so please hear me out. As a mother, I have come to understand exactly how amazing breasts really are.

When I was pregnant with my first child, I read a book a friend gave me about breastfeeding. One book. I really did not research too much else on the topic, but it seemed like a pretty simple thing to do and I would never have to wash bottles! That sounded like a good thing because I really don’t LOVE to wash dishes. Do you? I would always have my child’s meal with me since the production point was my body. Another good plan. Packing more things in addition to diapers and changing supplies could get complicated. What if I forgot something, what would I do then? So at one of my pregnancy checkups, my doctor asked me what I intended to do once my child was born – breastfeed or use formula. I told him I would breastfeed my child. Guess I had made up my mind and I never looked back.

So the journey of breastfeeding began on June 2, 2010 and lasted through July 30, 2014. WOW! That is an amazingly long time…. don’t you think? Keep in mind though I had a second child in that time, but there was never a break from breastfeeding….


My first child nursed throughout the second child’s residence in my womb. She came to the hospital on the day her brother was born to meet him of course….. lol, no really to get her time with mommy. It was actually pretty funny to have some nurses come through and ask me questions about nursing her throughout the entire pregnancy and during my time there in the hospital. The nurses asked me if you could really do that, ummm, yes…I am and nothing crazy is happening. Shortly after (1 month) her brother arrived, she finally gave up nursing cold turkey. I don’t think I could have handled tandem nursing for much longer. My patience with the process of feeding two of them at different times and so forth because I was not going to try to feed them both at the same time grew very thin. Personal preference I guess, but it just seemed too complicated to try to knock it out for both of them at the same time. Perhaps, I even encouraged her to give it up by telling her that her little brother REALLY needed the breastmilk more than her and he needed it to grow big and strong too. She was happy, healthy and a terrific fruit and veggie eater, so I knew she would continue to get enough good food by way of her healthy eating habits.

I have said all this to say, that I am truly amazed at what the human body is able to do. My body took what I gave it during that time and created a life-giving food to nourish my children. It helped us to bond and allowed me to nurture them with my own body and what it could supply. I was blessed to be able to take this journey with both my children and watch them grow and flourish from the nourishment that came forth from my breasts. Pretty amazing, if you ask me!



#SocialChallenge Day 27: Favorite part of your body

Favorite part of your body

My favorite part of my body would be my eyes because they tell it all. tarabuck_eyeWhen I’m hurt and upset they are deep forest green and red all around it.  Then when I’m happy and when I smile people always say that they can see my smile in my eyes. They are also the tools that I see to do everything in life.

#SocialChallenge Day 27: The Beauty of a Sound Mind

The Beauty of a Sound Mind

I was asked to answer the question what is your favorite body part and why? Here’s my answer: the brain. tarabuck_brain_labeled The brain controls everything. Your feelings, thoughts, and actions all happen in the brain. The more good stuff you put into it, the better you tend to be. Wonderful inventions and innovations come from the mind.

But I have seen what happens when the brain is not functioning properly. I used to work in nursing homes. Many of my clients were stroke victims or had some form of dementia. I also used to work in a partial hospitalization program where many of the patients had schizophrenia. Can you imagine having so many voices in your head or not being able to remember having children? What if you thought everyone was out to get you or you couldn’t remember what the function of a key is? That’s what it can be like with some forms of mental illness.

I like the fact that at this time I have a sound mind. My brain is pretty functional. Hopefully that will continue to be the case for many years to come. I like being able to live on my own independently. One of the issues many of my clients had to face was the loss of autonomy due to the impairments in their brain. Which is why I do what I can to stay mentally sharp.

So now I toss the question to you. What is your favorite part of your body and why?